Do you believe in Destiny?
I do. Here’s my story with a little poem and a song
I could see the morning light
The wind was laid, its task fulfilled
The sun just rose out of the night
In this moment, all stood still
In my head, I heard a voice
It made me listen, had no choice
It spoke about another me
Of a wondrous future for me to see
It showed to me a scenery
A beautiful piece of paradise
A glowing light over the eastern sea
A script that told about my life
It spoke about a choice to make
A road unfolded before my eyes
With curves and turns that I should take……
I cannot wait to fulfill my destiny
-Poem by Martine Weber
The issue of destiny is a loaded question. Nearly everyone wants to believe in the concept. Atheists may believe that there’s no God, no purpose and no point to life, but I find it pretty tough to live my life according to that philosophy.
The idea of destiny gives me a reason to move on, a motivation that my life matters beyond my daily life routine, through difficult periods, pain and sickness.
Religious or not, I think that most people want to believe that there is a purpose to life and would find it tremendously difficult to go on without that knowledge. Personally, I find it impossible not to believe in destiny.
Destiny is neither an end station, nor a quick fix. Destiny is a journey and gives you purpose. Destiny needs to be shaped by the decisions and choices you make. It will lead you to a happy home.
The concept of predestination
I always found ‘destiny’ to be a mysterious word. For me, it was a reference to the mysterious ways of a Higher Power, the Divine. To ‘a predetermined state, a condition predestined by the Divine or by human will’.
It refers to ‘an irresistible power or agency conceived of as determining the future, whether in general or of an individual.’ -en.wiktionary.org. Pretty prefixed, with hardly any room for free will.
I decided to research the concept of predestination a bit more. The Bible refers to Predestination several times. The verse that I now start to understand more and more is:
Even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him. In love he predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will, -Ephesians 1:4–5 ESV
The Christian tradition teaches that God has a purpose and plan for our lives. Because of the sacrifice of Jesus Christ on the cross, we have a higher calling and a guide to help us navigate our way through this world and the next. I found that in Christianity there are two main lines for understanding the concept of Predestination:
- On the basis of foreknowledge. Predestination is the eternal decision of God, arising from love, by which he sets out a historical plan of salvation giving every person the possibility to receive eternal salvation. Where Jesus is predestined to be the (only) mediator between Him and mankind.
- The belief that God is sovereign and decides everything that will happen regardless of the will of man. What God determines, no man can change.
Non-Christian traditions have their own variations.
Within Islam, we find the Qadar as the concept of divine destiny. It is one of Islam’s six articles of faith, along with belief in the Oneness of Allah, the Revealed Books, the Prophets of Islam, the Day of Resurrection and Angels. In essence, Al-Qadar means that Allah has decreed everything that happens in the universe according to His prior knowledge and the dictates of His wisdom.
Destiny as per Hinduism is best explained in the sacred Bhagavad Gita. The doctrine given to mankind by Lord Krishna in the battle of Mahabharata. The Bhagavad Gita describes the meaning of destiny as ‘fruits of karma that became available to one, every second of life’. The crux of destiny in Hinduism lies in karma performed: ‘we will reap what we sow’. Nothing less or more.
Believe in a higher power
The initial problem that I had with destiny was, that it was ‘too fixed’ for me. A fixed order of things over which I had no control and in which I had no say or choice. I couldn’t believe that, no matter what I did, it wouldn’t make a difference, because the outcome of my life was already preset.
For a long time, I placed myself on the scientific trail and tried to search and find answers about the meaning of life in the Laws of the Universe and in Science. But all that changed, a few years ago.
After my father died, I started wondering where he went. For four nights in a row in July 2015, I was sitting outside, looking at the stars, and I suddenly asked the question: ‘Please show me, what I cannot see now, but what I know is there. Show me what my purpose is on this planet, and what will happen to my soul’.
Suddenly, in various forms, all sorts of answers started coming my way. It was as if my attention was drawn in particular directions. In essence telling me that I had a calling. That my life was a journey, in which you can make choices and decisions to shape your destiny. That my purpose was lying in discovering the one thing I was born to do and good at, and that I should just do that! Because that would make me happy and fulfilled.
I started looking at texts and doctrines with different, more spiritual, eyes. Instead of ‘fixed and unchangeable’, different words started popping up in front of my eyes, like (unconditional) love, the path towards the light, the choice between fear and love, the duality of good and evil, the purpose of life, the calling, karma, soul paths, gnosis, destiny as a journey, the power of creation.
Also, I started feeling a strong urge to contribute to a more harmonious and peaceful world. And with this, my first song as a songwriter was born. Wishing for Peace.
If you would ask me now to give a definition of God, I would probably say something like: ‘I believe that God exists of two things.’
‘For one part he exists as a never ending and ever expanding interplanetary energy. For the other part, he has divided himself into smaller and larger sparks.’
‘And all sons and daughters of God have a unique divine spark, in which lies your unique talent, which resides in your heart, and which is your potential to become, or realize, the Christ within.’
Destiny leads you on a journey home
I believe that we are destined to find our way Home. Where by Home I mean that wondrous place I can feel in my heart. The way you do that, the route and the path you choose to follow, the circumstances under which you are born and the task for this particular lifetime you choose, are up to you.
I suppose, over the course of multiple incarnations, you are the creator of your own journey Home. That is your fate.
You have support on your journey. At least, that is how I experience it. From the people that function as your role model. From the many scripts and master teachings that can guide you to make the right choices on your journey. Like Jesus Christ, prophets, old masters, Buddha, Laozi, Confucius, Dalai Lama, Maitreya.
You can ask questions (or say a prayer) and you will get an answer. The only thing that matters is, that you have to ask your questions as concrete and precise as possible. Because only then you will start looking for and getting the right answers.
That one night in July I asked: ‘Please show me what I know is there, but cannot see (yet). Lift a veil of the curtain, reveal it to me.’ Rationally, I thought I was asking to show me the next dimension humanity was moving towards, a higher frequency as you may call it, unlocking more of our DNA coding, showing me information about how the universe works….
Intentionally, it occurred to me later, I was asking a different question. Something was confusing me throughout my whole life, and I wanted to know what it was. I got a different answer than expected. The answer was, that I had to resolve a major thing out of my past that was not shown to me before in this particular way. Which gave me clarity about what had happened to me.
Call it resolving karma. And it suddenly appeared to me that I was here to resolve that first, in this lifetime, to clear the path for a next generation, for the next level of light and happiness. Undo some of the things where my soul went wrong in former lives. Spiritually speaking.
Or more ‘earthly’, to give me the chance in this lifetime, by clearing the past, to create and lead a happy life, to look for the one thing I was born to do, to shape and fulfill my destiny. To bring me one step closer to Home.
Before that night in July, the above would all sound like Gibberish to me. But now it feels like a very true and real path, towards a light and pleasant place. I hope it is not another illusion, but I have strong faith that it is not. I will explore and follow it with my heart as my compass.
I can control my destiny, but not my fate. Destiny means there are opportunities to turn right or left, but fate is a one-way street. I believe we all have the choice as to whether we fulfill our destiny, but our fate is sealed. -Paulo Coelho
Destiny is not an endpoint, it is a journey
I reached the conclusion that we don’t have a locked down, concrete, unchanging destiny we were born to accomplish. Destiny isn’t a task you can check off a list. It’s not an endpoint. Your destiny is a moving target. You have to discover what you were born to do, and (eventually) do it. You have to give your destiny form and shape it. At least that is how it appears to me.
Destiny is a journey that will lead you to many places with many in between stops. You will meet people along your route with whom you choose to travel for a while. On your journey, people and circumstances will challenge you to make the right choices. To choose good over evil.
You can ask or pray for support on your journey. In that regards, choose your questions wisely and be aware of what you wish for. You might get it! Your heart is the key to love and the key to home.
The further away you move from Home, the more scary and dark it will become in your heart. Now, this is quite something to say for someone who was always running away from home when she was younger, or rather took the long way home.
I’ve learned that my heart is a compass. Whenever I feel light in my heart, I know I am on the right track. Whenever it feels heavy on my heart, it isn’t meant for me, or it no longer serves me. Or it is not the right choice to make, another illusion that looks like it’s the right track. Or maybe I’m trying to take a shortcut, where there are no shortcuts when it comes to destiny.
Destiny will take you on a journey where you will let go of which no longer serves and take new paths. Eventually, your calling will lead you home. That is your fate.
During your present life, you’re destined to fulfill the one thing you were born to do, to fulfill your purpose.
Over the course of different incarnations, you’re destined to find your way Home. That is your fate.
Call to destiny
A mistake we make, in my opinion, is that we spend a lot of time looking to the idea of destiny as a quick fix or an end point. We think that destiny will just reveal itself to us, that someone will reveal it to you, or that it will just descend out of the sky.
Okay, we have a destiny and a purpose. We have one important thing to do. But destiny is not a quick fix. It only comes with hard work, perseverance and action.
Destiny wants to be discovered and will only reveal and unfold itself layer by layer. Like peeling an onion. It wants to be pursued. It needs to be shaped.
Because it’s in the journey we learn to understand and value what it means.
As Tony Robbins says, it is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped. Make the decision to shape your own destiny, discover your purpose in life and learn what truly motivates you. Realign your values and start living the life you desire and deserve.